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re: don’t push me to get married soon..

Dec 28th, 2005 | Wawan | life

ini sebenarnya email lama balesan gue buat seorang teman yg nanyain pendapat gue setelah baca email dg judul DON’T PUSH ME TO GET MARRIED SOON yg beredar di milis2. karena barusan ada yg email lagi masih ttg masalah ini, jd email ini gue post aja ke blog ;)

“KAPAN NIKAH???”
“UDAH, JANGAN MILIH-MILIHLAH!!!”
“JANGAN LAMA-LAMA!!!!”
“JANGAN KEJAR KARIER TERUS DONG!!!”

for me, its already in my blood that i don’t like to be push by anybody in any kind of matter, I prefer if they just give me an advice about what should I do, or just ask me to do it nicely, but not pushing me to do it (asking and pushing is different… at least for me it is)

kapan? belum taulah, calonnya aja belum punya :P waktu sakral itu haruslah terjadi karena kesepakatan kedua belah pihak, ga bisa karena ada rencana sepihak…

bukan berarti g milih-milih, tapi i just can’t imagine to spend the rest of my life with someone that i do not love. kalau kemudian loe tanya g ‘kalo gitu loe percaya dg cinta’? ya jelaslah, i love my parents, my sisters, my best friends and my love :D

jadi milih itu wajib buat g, biarpun bisa jadi pilihan kita itu bukan yg terbaik, atau nanti waktu membuktikan kalau g salah pilih, it’s ok, kalau g udah berani buat nentuin pilihan, itu berarti g jg harus berani buat nanggung semua akibatnya… (kemungkinan besar sih, pasangan g yg bakal merasa salah pilih :P to much mistake that i’ve done in my life)

kemudian masalah karier & materi…

beberapa waktu lalu, malam2 di Pasundan, g makan mlm ama teman cowok, nah disitu dia curhat masalah rencana2nya dia.

tadi waktu kuliah dia punya rencana bakalan nikah kalau dia at least udah punya rumah, tabungan minimal sekitar 50jt buat biaya prosesi pernikahan (di jakarta mahal katanya… jd paling ga dia bisa mbantu ngasih ke keluarga cewek sejumlah itu).

sekarang berhubung dia udah punya cicilan mobil, rencananya sedikit berubah. dia menggugurkan rencana harus punya rumah, nanti bisa nyewa katanya, tapi tetap min punya tabungan, dan cicilan mobilnya udah beres. itu tadi syaratnya dia, ceweknya sendiri yg dijakarta ga tau masalah tadi.

terus ada teman lain, cewek, yg bilang kalau dia sendiri ga punya persyaratan min kayak cowok tadi, yg paling penting adalah hati…

as long as we’ve a pure heart and walk throught that holy bound called married only because of ALLAH, and insya ALLAH every thing will be put in place.

kalau g sendiri gimana?

hehehe… ada teman yg bilang aku ambisius, tapi pada kenyataannya aku belum punya karier yg mapan, dan ambisi itu belum terpuaskan, i admit that… tapi terus bukan berarti aku belum mau nikah, if finally i found someone that my heart tell me she is the one, and she love me like i love her, than why not ^_^

and if this things need time, so be it…, we don’t need to push it… i just want, if the time come, it just like what rumi said…

May these vows and this marriage be blessed.
May it be sweet milk, this marriage, like wine and halvah.
May this marriage offer fruit and shade like the date palm.
May this marriage be full of laughter, our every day a day in paradise.
May this marriage be a sign of compassion, a seal of happiness here and hereafter.
May this marriage have a fair face and a good name, an omen as welcomes the moon in a clear blue sky.
I am out of words to describe how spirit mingles in this marriage.

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4 people have left comments

he he, kemaren sore gw nyaris memposting tulisan dengan tema yang persis sama. Ga jadi gara2 ga sempat nulis.

Kalau buat gw yang paling penting adalah restu orangtua dan kemantapan hati :D
Semoga cepat dikabulkan doanya kita semua..Amin

may hendrawati wrote on December 29, 2005 - 1:38 pm | Visit Link

amin..

restu orang tua kayaknya emang harus yg paling diutamakan ya may :)

[blank] wrote on December 29, 2005 - 5:43 pm | Visit Link

blognya ngewakilin g banget, semua keluarga nanyain “kapan nyusul si a padahal si a lebih muda 4 tahun dari lo?”duh bete banget calon aja blom ada n kalo pun udah ada kan ga langsung jegleg married gitu perlu proses n nyatuin visi.
mang sih umur udah ngasih warning…
doain ya biar Allah ngabulin doa orang orang yang sabar..
Amiiin. :neutral:

Vhie wrote on March 23, 2008 - 8:34 pm | Visit Link

buat Vhie » semoga doanya dikabulin ya Vhie, amin…

Wawan wrote on March 23, 2008 - 9:41 pm | Visit Link

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